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To help us define child sexual abuse, I am copying the definition and expanded definition from NTM's own Child Protection Manual:

"Child 
abuse 
is 
the 
treatment 
of
 a 
child 
under
 the 
age 
of 
18, 
often 
in 
the 
context
 of 
a 
relationship 
of

responsibility,
 trust, 
or 
power 
that
 endangers 
or 
impairs 
the 
health
 or
 welfare
 of 
a 
child.


SEXUAL 
ABUSE
Child 
sexual
 abuse 
is 
evidenced
 by 
an 
activity 
between
 a 
child
 and 
an 
adult 
or
 another 
child
 who 
by
 age

or 
development 
is 
in 
a 
relationship
 of 
responsibility, 
trust, 
or 
power, 
the 
activity 
being
 intended
 to

gratify 
or 
satisfy 
the 
desires
 of 
the 
other 
person.

 Sexual 
abuse 
includes, 
but 
is 
not
 limited 
to, 
verbal,

visual,
 and/or 
physical
 touch.


DETAILED
 DEFINITIONS
 OF
 SEXUAL 
ABUSE

Verbal – 
Remarks
 which 
include 
sexual 
threats, 
innuendoes, 
comments 
about 
a 
person’s 
body,

solicitation, 
inappropriate
 sexual 
talking,
 obscene 
phone
 calls,
 or 
any 
verbal
 expression 
with 
intent 
to

arouse 
or
 stimulate.
Visual 
‐ 
Visual 
sexual 
abuse 
also 
includes, but 
is 
not 
limited
 to,
 voyeurism, 
indecent 
exposure, 
showing

or
 taking
 suggestive 
pictures, 
peeping, 
exhibitionism, 
showing 
of 
pornographic
 material, 
showing 
of 

genitals, 
or
 the 
showing
 of 
any 
sexual 
activity 
such
 as
 masturbation 
or 
intercourse.
Physical 
touching – Examples
 of
 such 
activity 
could 
include:
 fondling,
 sexual
 touching, 
masturbation
 in

front 
of, 
or 
to,
 the 
victim,
 rubbing, 
holding, 
and 
kissing 
for 
the 
purpose 
of 
sexual
 gratification. 

Further

examples 
include 
oral,
 genital,
 anal, 
and 
breast
 stimulation; 
penetration 
by 
penis, 
fingers, 
or 
any 
other

body
 part 
or 
object,
 of 
mouth,
 anus, 
or
 vagina;
 physical 
contact
 with 
a 
person’s 
clothed
 or
 unclothed

genitals,
 pubic
 area,
 buttocks, 
or, 
if 
such
 person
 is 
a
 female,
 breast, 
with 
the 
intent 
to 
arouse
 or
 gratify

the 
sexual 
desire 
of 
either 
party."

I'm sorry this gets pretty graphic, but 

I am thinking maybe it would be good to clarify a definition, and NTM's own manual lays it out pretty clearly. There are many things people are capable of doing to or with a child that are abuse and molestation. Many things that might seem, in our memories, as "not really so bad". My thought is, if it made you uncomfortable, and you still think about it with negative feelings, then it was abuse.

The ones we were with did the same thing but to all babies to keep them quiet. They did it during meeting etc to calm the babies.

Ughhhhhh!
We were kind of warned as a family about the maids and what the culture was.
But it should have been a part of the general orientation.
What were people thinking???
.......They weren't?