Non-sexual abuse suffered by one Fanda MK

– Spanked for crying at night when I missed my parents – I was told that it was wrong for me to cry, and that I was bad to be keeping the other girls awake.
– Spanked for long periods until I cried – It took awhile to get over the confusion of when I was supposed to cry, and when I was not allowed to cry.
– Dragged from my bed and spanked in my underware (sic) in the middle of the dorm, for not sleeping during “sleeping siesta”
– Forced to eat un-appetizing food until I vomited – then loudly reprimanded for “making such a disgusting mess”
– Forced to re-write letters to my parents, until the entire letter was positive. We were not allowed to say how much we missed them, or that we hated it at Fanda. If we did, and our parents were sad by what they read, we would be directly responsible for “hurting god’s work”
– Constantly told that god was angry with me, and given the impression that I could never “measure up” in his eyes
– The Bell. If we didn’t immediately respond to whatever schedule the bell was calling for, we were spanked. I lived in fear of The Bell.
– I was told by another dorm parent that I would become a lesbian – because I was square-dancing with my friends in our bedroom. I didn’t know what a lesbian was.
– I was beaten by another dorm parent with a belt, at the age of 14, and when I refused to give the desired response (crying), the dorm parent cried and said, “I just don’t know what to do with you.”
– We were told so many times that we were at school so that our parents could “do god’s work”, that it was an engineered response to never talk about the horrors of Fanda to my parents.
This list is only written to provide an example of the many other forms of abuse suffered at Fanda, at the hands of those who were meant to protect us. The children.
There is so much more.

This entry was posted in Stories. Bookmark the permalink.

6 Responses to Non-sexual abuse suffered by one Fanda MK

  1. shadowspring says:

    I too am crying after reading this. My heart breaks for you, Bonnie. How could anyone treat a child so wickedly? And in the name of ministry? In the name of Jesus? *cries more

  2. Broken says:

    Bonnie…I can identify 100% with everything you have said. This was exactly life in PNG too! 🙁

  3. A parent of 3 Fanda MKs says:

    I’m crying too hard …, I’ll write more later.

  4. ntmabuse says:

    by anon

    Submitted on 2009/06/27 at 5:34pm

    Unbelievable. Awful. I am so sorry.

  5. ntmabuse says:

    by anon

    Submitted on 2009/06/28 at 6:20pm

    I have children and thank my lucky stars everyday that I never allowed myself to become involved with NTM and put them thru the hell Iwent thru.

  6. ntmabuse says:

    by anon

    In response to the above comments, I was the first commentator and I agree one abuse is not "worse" than the other. That comment of mine was actually in response to this whole blog. I am so sorry to hear of all this and was sick yesterday. To think of you all suffering and being unheard for 20 years breaks my heart. I know God is just. HE heard your cries and saw the tears. I am sure it didn't seem like it tho. My prayers are for you all. I pledge to pray for you each day.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *