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What is Abuse?

Very few people know what abuse really is, though everyone seems quite ready to give advice to its victims. If you believe that abuse is physical battering, you have some learning to do.

Abuse is fundamentally a mentality. It is a mindset of entitlement. The abuser sees himself* as entitled. He is the center of the world, and he demands that his victim make him the center of her world. His goal is power and control over others. For him, power and control are his natural right, and he feels quite justified in using whatever means are necessary to obtain that power and control. The abuser is not hampered in these efforts by the pangs of a healthy conscience and indeed often lacks a conscience.

While this mentality of power and control often expresses itself in various forms of physical abuse, it just as frequently employs tactics of verbal, emotional, financial, social, sexual and spiritual abuse. Thus, an abuser may never actually lay a hand on his wife and yet be very actively terrorizing her in incredibly damaging ways.

Abuse in any of its forms destroys the victim's person. Abuse, in the end, is murder.

* Sometimes the genders are reversed.

Some good thoughts here on the subject of abuse.

Someone else recently compared abuse to murder.

It is true.

Abuse is NOT just stealing a cookie.

Abuse was when you said you loved me
But your actions gave the lie
Abuse was when you took my childhood
And hung it out to dry

Abuse was when I did my best
And you praised some other kid
Because your warped mind said
On praise you must keep a lid

Abuse was when you stole my toys
And sold them to another
Abuse was your arrogance
That would not listen to another

Abuse was when you saw skin color
And judged before you knew
Then told the world you went to save
But you loved only but a few

Abuse was when you chose
To follow missions laws
And on your own little children
Slammed those heavy doors

Abuse is now you know the truth
And yet still you say it is not true
Abuse is what you say
And what you fail to do

Well said, Bemused.

Thank you.

Abuse is being very big
And not caring for the small
Abuse is covering up those
Who walked not true and tall

Abuse is saying you love MKs
Yet never knowing a name like mine
Abuse is taking others money
To live a life not divine

Abuse is saying there was no abuse
Or the law won't let you clean up your mess
And hiding those who abused your MKs
Who you still claim God does bless

Abuse is spiritual mumbo jumbo
And saying the Devil is to blame
That there is to much of his temptation
And he has caused the shame

Abuse is saying it won't happen again
Yet another goes to jail
And you wash your hands of his deeds
Then his victims you badly fail

Abuse is calling an MK "former"
Disowning another from your care
Abuse is erasing those offenders
Taking reports then not to share

Abuse is telling the devoted
That MKs have gone insane
And that you have offered assistance
When you know you are to blame

Abuse is when there is no assistance
Just threats of legal deeds
Abuse is when you throw up the chaff
And only keep the weeds

Abuse is when caught lying
You lie even more
And then you shout "we love MKs"
As you shove them out your door

True love for fellow man is when a person is on a site like this helping others who they don't even know!!!!!!!!
True love is doing the above, even when your own faith has been destroyed.
True love is when you do the above, knowing that your name will quickly be forgotten by those you have helped, if they even knew it in the first place, but helping others anyway.
True love is not being a Christian, it is living like Christ would have done, even if you don't see yourself as being a Christian.
True love is what keeps this site going, because true love fights for justice for others, not just for oneself.
True love does not live in the heart of a mission that does not have a heart. It lies in the brave individuals who serve others at their own personal cost, no matter who they are aligned with, because they have bigger hearts than any mission will probably ever have.
True love is the person who sends you a personal message, just to make sure you are o.k.
True love is the friends who love me despite what I have done to myself to make me unlovable.
True love is what most of us spend a lifetime wanting, but looking in the wrong places for and then accepting poor imitations of because we can no longer tell the difference.

WOW, everyone, this is good stuff.
Thank you!
In spite of the topic
It is an encouraging read.

So if we say LIKE! to like here
How do we raise our hand?
HAND!

HAND! for Bemused's poems here.
And tears too.

True love is now making me cry, Aussie, you softy

Yeah, well you just keep that to yourself, this old bird has an image to maintain. Gotta keep them naughty Tribers in line with the old chainsaw routine.
Now stop using all the tissues, this chainsaw don't cut down trees to make into tissues sister, it is for pruning noxious plants!!!!!!!

O.k. I'm a bit of a softy, just don't tell anyone