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Agast, you're welcome, and you are right. It is good to feel positive emotions. *smile

This is from the guestbook page, posted by Rachel Mullens:

Hey, I am an MK from the NTM PNG field…spent 18 yrs there. I was sexually abused by an elder in the tribe where we lived long before I went to boarding school. While at boarding school I was sexually, emotionally, spiritually and physically abused. About 4 yrs ago some PNG MKs started a website where we could keep intouch with each other. It was on this website that I with great intrepidation posted my first abuse story. This led to many other MKs posting their stories. Then one day we saw a post asking us to share our stories with leadership. The post came from Scott Ross (of course most of us trusted him as he and his wife were part of the boarding school in PNG and we knew what kind of guy he was). This made it easy for a lot of us to share our stories. A group meeting was planned where we could talk directly to leadership face to face. I live in Canada and NTM paid for my trip to Missouri as well as my mom’s trip (she was my support). There was 5 MKs I think at that meeting along with Scott, Bing and Lolly Hare, and 2 executive. We shared our stories and talked about what should be done. When I left I felt very much at peace — not because all was solved and everything was ok — Not at all –but because I felt like I had been heard, truely heard, and I had been able to give my opinion on what should happen. Yes, NTM has hundreds of cases of child abuse that has occurred on mission fields around the world and yes it is easy to mistrust anyone from NTM. But please believe me…there are NTM members who truely greive for us and who care for us deeply. I am not here to tell anyone what to do or not to do. I am simply telling you a small part of my story and sharing with you my experience with NTM. Each one of us must deal with our own situations as well as we can and each one of us has the right to say what we think. A fellow abused Mk once said “If we can endure the abuse then the Christian community can endure the aftermath and hearing about it”. So talk — talk it out — only in talking about it can healing begin!

A fellow abused Mk once said “If we can endure the abuse then the Christian community can endure the aftermath and hearing about it”.

Excellent statement! Why do we feel so guilty bringing things up? When we are the ones who endured the horrible abuse that happened?

From what I can tell, the guilt comes from how missionaries were hard wired in boot camps. That was the first step.

I'm glad she found her peace, I truly am, but from personal experience, I know not all cases are the same as we have dealt with Bing's impatience first hand.

Bing..is he the guy that was on the NTM PNG page (that doesn't exist anymore) who had a profile pic that showed him creeping/peeking around a corner. That totally creeped me out!!! I posted something there and he contacted me right away. His profile pic alone reminded me of all the creeps at boarding school always peeking/lurking behind corners waiting to pounce. I dunno...maybe he's a great person..but not a good choice of a profile pic for people who have been abused by creepers!!!