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Sorry Interested. From past experience with Avant (GMU) once they have gone through a process they feel is enough everything goes back to normal. Avant told me C&MA handled it all when I asked them why they had never asked for my story. I just wrote them a couple of years ago. They still have never asked for my story. That is my personal experience. They also have covered up an allowed abusers to continue to minister. So NTM is not alone.

I am sick that NTM has abused all the Fanda MKs again by allowing the abuser Ron back to the field. Kari and Bonnie have done so much for MKs all over the world even those of us from other missions. My thoughts are with them often.

The actions toward the Budik people is the most un Christian missionary thing I have seen. This is treating the nationals as less than human. He is a sex offender and the church should be told he is and remove him. NTM is exposing a national church to an abuser. They should never let him anywhere but in US under some kind of accountability if he can't be legally put in jail where he belongs. Is the reason he is in Africa because if he was in US he might have to face charges? Abusers don't stop abusing when they can get it away with it. He is living in luxury in a wonderful country.

Wouldn't it be nice if missions paid MKs to live in their lives in furnished housing. I would love to retire in Mali. Why do the evil people get the good stuff? Sorry but right now I am so lonesome for home and so mad and jealous. Evil people should not be treated like loyalty. I am crying for all the Fanda MKs. This has to stop.

I'd like to ride off into the sunset, singing Kumbah Yah, safe in the knowledge that this scandal would never happen to any other child, I just can't bring myself to have enough faith to jump on the bike and pedal away.

Those who prey on children are by their very nature masters of deceit and disguise. So it is my considered opinion that every tool in the arsenal is needed to make sure that the risk of a repeat of history is minimised to nil.

In regards to parents, I still scratch my head at the abnormal response of far to many. While the denial and blind loyalty to a flawed system exist, the conditions also exist for yet another batch of paedophiles to hide.
If a parent doesn't care enough to even raise the issue with their now adult children, then they must live with the possible consequences of their decision, which could mean the loss of generations to come.

What if the MK victims requested that it be sent to their own parents?? I personally hold both of my parents just as responsible as NTM. My offender has his own category. I did share your letter on my FB but my Father isn't a FB friend of mine. HAHA and my mother only views things to do with dogs.

I was touched by Rachel's letter and felt many things said pertain to my parents and I am sure all MKs that read it feel the same. I don't know how many other MK victims haven't had any accountability spoken or acted upon by their parents either. Guessing the percentage is pretty high. And I wonder how many MK victims have parents that have told them they don't believe them when the adult MK now speaks of their trauma because it is finally able to come out? For these above two reasons and their actions when I was a child in NTM and then in Panama I hold them responsible.

I am not even if the letter came from Brian at NTM that my parents would read it!! But this angle, I believe, is worth a try

MK Chame and all my fellow MKs: I am pretty sure that for NTM, this is now a closed subject. They have made their decision, and will not be sending the Open Letter to Parents out. And the question, to start with, was whether they would send it to active members (and I was hoping to retirees as well). The idea of sending it to parents who are no longer in the mission didn't even get suggested, as far as I know.

Brian Shortmeier says he is in favor of what I wrote and likes the idea of sending it to all NTM members ... BUT ...

BUT ...

The answer is NO.

I am so disappointed, for all of you who would like to get this message out to your parents, that they aren't receiving it, or aren't reading it, or aren't responding to it ....

I too am frustrated at our inability to get through to a majority of parents who abandoned small children in mission boarding schools. The need for dialogue to be opened up about this is absolutely critical.

I am frustrated. And I am ashamed of these parents.

I am not sure what else to suggest. I can only hope that this is not a permanently closed chapter. Another missed opportunity. Another example of parents not making their children's needs a priority. I am holding onto hope for at least a few to finally "get it"....

My Dear Raz,

There is no such answer as no, just an opportunity to look at the problem another way. As my father would say, "one door shuts and another opens".
So which parents do we want to read this letter? If each of us compiles our own list then send it ourselves. Just because NTM doesn't want to officially endorse this excellent letter, is no reason why it shouldn't be read.
Follow ones convictions and reach out. Then as my father also says "they cannot say they were not told".

O.k. some older folks don't have a computer, simple just send snail mail and then pray that the recipient takes it to heart.

The problem may be NTMs, the solution is ours to go find.

Oh, it's Mothers Day here, so a few flowers could be attached.

Happy Mothers Day to those blessed with children.

Attaching flowers sounds like a GREAT idea!

After all, we do love our mothers. Even the stubborn ones.

Right?

Do you really want me to be honest?

I don't know. I really don't know.

I know I don't love my father, we stand on opposite sides of a very big issue and I feel his view on this and the defense of what I call the indefensable makes him unloveable.
But my mother? She is a victim in this too. She was trapped by the domineering male culture, which said "women are inferior and must do what they are told". She was isolated from anyone that could have rescued her out of it and eventually it took any will she might have had to resist what was going on.
Alas the way I see it is my mother never came home from the field. Yes the body turned up, but somehow she is still up their in the highlands singing little chorus's and doing exactly what she is told by her "superiors".
For here it was her finest hour, for me it was where I lost her and I don't think she is ever coming home.

But she is happy in her own way, for after all this time, she knows nothing else. And perhaps that is the best place to leave this for her. This is not her fault, the blame can be entirely laid at the feet of the one I do not love, it his situation to own and sort out.

Yeah it is Mothers Day and I will put on my uniform and watch as others mothers receive flowers and chocolates and the annual visit from their children. And I'll wonder what if . . .

Sad, so sad, Bemused. Your mother has carefully kept her wall up and that still puts all responsibility on you. I probably sound hard-hearted but I think her style of relating is most insidious. Seems so meek and subservient, but it keeps real heart and real repentance far far away.

Bemused, you are so authentic and it is refreshing.

Thanks Interested. So many MKs have Mom's like Bemused. Yes they are victims of what they have been taught but where is their common sense. The teaching that mothers would give up their suckling children was always taught to refer to ungodly women, but I think they are on the mission field. Since when does God ask people to do what doesn't make common sense.

Moms give your MK a real Mother's Day Gift. Give them back a Mom who will stand behind her child regardless of who accuses her of not putting God first.

Anyone need a Mom or Grandma I'll adopt you. I am crying for so many of you as I know your stories.