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Bemused, I don't believe in arguing faith or politics here.
But I will note that just because some people twist truth
Doesn't mean that there is no truth that stands.

I guess that's a matter of faith after all.

Raz, it's incomprehensible..............

What?

My Dear Mosquito Bite, I am sorry I snapped at you, should not have done so and am apologising profusely.

Pre Fanda Eagles I had a comfortable but somewhat unhappy life. It was comfortable because I had worked hard to make it that way, it was somewhat unhappy because of the mess that nagged in my head from the MK experience.
Since joining Fanda Eagles I have attained a considerable happier contented life, but a little less comfortable at times. The reason being, I'm spending quite a bit of time in an area I have spent years trying to avoid, namely religon and specifically christianity. I'm probably not alone as an MK who has serious doubts about the faith they were brought up in, because of what they saw and experienced as a child. But I'm probably in a very small minority of MKs who are daft enough to wander back to their childhood via a site such as Fanda Eagles and stick out like a sore thumb because of the doubts I have about the tricky issue of personal faith.
I'm not trying to convert anyone to my way of thinking, believe me the insecure nightmare is bad enough with just me in it. My aim is to find out why this whole mess occured in the first place and why it is taking so long to resolve.
I have been fortunate enough that most of my Fanda Eagles colleagues accept my strange view of the world as who I am and a product of the environment that was/is my life. For me to pretend to be what I am not, would make me dishonest with both myself and with others and thereby possibly at the top of the slippery slide of dishonesty that has made this whole saga the complicated mess that we are now both trying to sort out.
What I have had to put up with for most of my life is a father who has stooped to any tactic to get others to conform to his viewpoint and one of the tactics used is to denegrate anything someone who won't agree says or does, no matter how good it is and to overpraise what those who agree with his line of thinking (no matter how corrupt, illogical or immoral the behaviour) to drive home the point. I suspect I may have misinterpreted your words and flashed back to what was to much of my past and for this I offer my humble explanation and apology.

Cheers

Bemused

If we grew up with very much the same teachings are we so different today. Over the years I have seen some who have the same beliefs they were taught as children. The other extreme is dropping all beliefs from childhood. Most of us are somewhere in between. If we remember each is on their own journey we will be able to listen even when we disagree. It is important to be honest with ourselves and other. Many times I have found I have changed, this has made me much more tolerant towards others. I have also seen many of my MK friends change over the years. I have MK friends from both ends and we get alone fine. I know on most MK site those who have dropped much find it hard because those at the other end sometimes condemn them, so most try to fly "under the radar" I am sorry because we should all be able to share our whole story.

I totally understand why about one third in my experience have completely drop any formal religion. Only about another third are still with the denomination of their parents. The other third have adopted a more main line denomination. But in cause of stopping abuse we are agree. Abusers need to be held accountable and stopped. Children need to be protected. Those abused regardless of how long ago need acknoledgement of the crime by leaders, and compinsation.

Bemused you are not daft you have courage. Thank you for sharing.