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PostPosted: Sun Oct 05, 2014 1:35 pm 
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Hmmmmmmmmmmm, I think I must be inhabiting a rather different world down here.

My mother wrote to me a few months ago, a nice letter containing family news. So I wrote back and mentioned the Gary Earl scandal (we knew him well), suggesting prayers for the victim would be worth considering.
Then I got a third letter from my father. He stated that my mother was crying "tears of bitterness", but it wasn't for the victims, it was because she had been finally told what was going on. However it turns out my father was lying, because another source says my mother was overjoyed that I wrote to her.
What my father was really angry about was that my mother had read the letter before he could destroy it! He controls everything she reads, says and does. And he doesn't stop there, he will control anyone who lets him near their lives.

My dear Raz, your children are truly blessed that you are a parent who cares, who is able to see the past with enlightenment and go a long way to making amends.
Some of us alas will never be blessed as such, for our parent/s do not care, still say that there was no abuse and keep chanting on about "The Work" and how many souls have been saved because of it. My father writes the most offensive letters where he blames me for NTMs woes.

Footnote. I have had no reply from my mother and I do not expect to get one. No doubt she has been threatened by my father, just like I have been. Alas she is now no longer capable of walking away from the monster, like I have done.
Footnote II. I have had a couple of correspondences from well meaning friends, who wonder why I label myself "agnostic", perhaps this insight into what was my family will provide some clue. This is what I grew up with, this is what my world would still be like if I hadn't walked away from it. I am finally free of the bullying and harassing of my father and if he really is the great man of God that so many have been fooled into thinking he is, then why would I want to be labelled similar?


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I am still desperately believing that there are a few parents out there with a tender conscience, who need to hear my words encouraging them to open their hearts, feel the pain, and use their tears to mend the severed ties with their own children.

I am incredibly sad because I know that you speak the truth about your father, Bemused, and there is no hope for any repentance from him, or any chance for freedom for your mother, to speak the words you have not heard.

But I am desperate to believe that the message I type does not fall only on deaf ears and blind eyes all over the world of New Tribes Mission.

I am desperate to believe someone out there can still hear me.

Some missionary parent whose child longs to be reconnected, and they are just waiting for their parent to say, "I believe you. You were right. I was wrong. Can we please mend the broken ties. I need you in my life, and I am willing to pay any price to be back in relationship with you, my own dear child."


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I'm not a parent, however I'm reasonably confident I am correct in thinking that the natural instinct of most "normal" parents is to protect their children, even when they have grown up and are out making their own mistakes.

So what has gone so wrong that this is so often not the case in so many families that we know? Was there something in the training mentality that changed this basic instinct and somehow "The Work" took precedence over caring deeply for ones own?

Granted, my own situation is at one end of the spectrum, but it is not an isolated case at all. There are fully functional caring families at the other end of the spectrum. But why so many in the middle who are playing the blame game, trotting out the old tired mantras and not even attempting to reconcile the past in a spirit of compassion?


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Will pride never allow many parents to admit that they might have participated in a social experiment that was so badly flawed? A system that demanded pride be beaten out of their children. A system where only the mentally agile and fit survived, the rest became zombies who were devoid of really living outside the cultish environment that had so negatively influenced them.

What sort of sick mentality is oozing out of this cult, that parents cannot speak to their adult children about the past? This is the worst type of brainwashing, where fear of the truth overrides common sense, compassion and genuine love.

Thank you for renewing this thread Raz. You speak with genuine love. You shine the light of concern into the dark. You are not alone, some of us are the batteries for your light :D


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The batteries for my light. I really like that!

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O.K. I'm going to sign off for today. Done enough soul questioning posts for the day. Better let others get a word in.

I'm sure Bemused will be awake soon and making wise cracks about batteries. And we will all feel better because we will be laughing again.

I'll just go put my batteries on the charger, don't want that light going out do we? :D


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Ha, ha. My name in vein again I see. :lol:

Don't need batteries down here, it's almost the longest day.

I e-mailed Larry to ask what batteries were in stock and he said "alas we have no C batteries".


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