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thank you, hnh for your words.

i am learning some disgusting facts about reporting to authorities. later, when i have more time to be angry about this aspect of it and perhaps take it on, i think it will be a big agenda for me...

according to the people i've talked with so far at a domestic/sexual abuse shelter, because it was done years ago and because the crimes were perpetrated by minors... no matter that the crimes were horrific... there usually isn't much to be done about it.

apparently these cases are reported to children and youth and it often becomes a "he-said/she-said" type ordeal with the victim coming out feeling more victimized.

isn't that sad and worse, infuriating that there are who knows how many people who commit these acts as minors, never get help or correction and there is not much in place legally to ensure they haven't grown up to now be adults who do these things? i can't wrap my mind around it right now.

please do pray for us in the following week. there are christmas gatherings with both sides and abuse happened on both sides- both minor perpetrators who are now adults - and we are still reeling and making decisions regarding all this. of course, what my child desires is considered foremost but this child has also convinced herself that she is responsible to keep everything 'normal' and that concerns me as we make decisions for the next week. after that, it will be fairly easy to avoid these people.

MrsM, so sorry to hear of the pain you & yours are experiencing now.
In answer to your question, I would never want to see the perpetrator in my case ever again - let alone hear his apology. I find it disgusting that he apologized to my parents before he left the field, but no one apologized to ME at the time (other than my parents). My main goal in this all is not apologies or even forgiveness, but prevention in the future for all children especially mk's. I want to know that safeguards are in place to stop this from happening to mk's, and I want to know that if someone has done wrong they are dealt with appropriately - not just a slap on the hand and allowed "back into the fold" as in my situation. To me, apologies can be just expected words, but actions show true intentions.