Oh yes, church attendance.
I remember once, as we were getting ready to go to church, I began to pray, which soon led to my giving my heart over to total worship. I was on my knees, hands raised, thanking God for all the love and kindness He has shown me in heartfelt sincerity and my MK husband comes in the room. If looks could kill, I'd be dead. Forget having an actual relationship with God- I WAS MAKING THE FAMILY LATE FOR CHURCH! How dare I? 
Of course he never said those words, that would be wrong. He communicated them with the silent withering stare, followed by a terse "when do you think you might be ready for church?" through clenched teeth.
I remember thinking this must be how David felt when Micah mocked him. 
Anyway, don't hold it against my husband if he ever posts here. He was just living what he learned. Appearances, including being on time for church, are what matter in the missionary world he grew up in. People whose hearts are honestly and fully engaged in worship are to be held in contempt for being mere emotionalists.
Mere attenders are so much more pleasing to God, doncha know?
It's a wonder to me that anyone comes to a real faith in Jesus through the work of most missionaries. The fact that some people DO manage to come to Christ through the work is a real testament to the unending mercy of God. It is not an endorsement of mission policy or protocol, both of which favor doctrine over person and appearance over substance in most cases, at least as far as I have seen.
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, never thought before of the disassociation angle. Wow, you're brilliant. Yes, my poor husband. I had no good conflict resolution skills when we first got married, and still remember his bewilderment when I would withdraw or cry instead of talk about it. And when he decided to never again go to church, I had no idea what to do . . .my head of the family was not my spiritual leader? I avoided contacted any of my former MK friends for years over the shame of that one . . .thanks for your input.
. Mom recently apologized for not spending enough time with us -- I haven't responded to that one yet because I know we would disagree with all of those church hours.