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I´m not a triber, but I´m going to nosy parker in anyway, here´s one that I love, at the link:

http://music.theblackthornproject.com/track/give-me-your-hand

youtube version´s too badly recorded.

Yesterday, today, forever
NTO is the same
Others may change, and experience personal growth and paradigm-altering epiphanies and take a good long, hard look in the mirror and see themselves as they really are and listen to people around them who are trying to help them become better versions of themselves
But NTO NEVAHHH!!!
Glory to its own name!

I'm so behind the times here.

Can someone recap for me what is currently going on re: investigations, NTM's current stance, etc, etc?

I'm going out on a limb here...

Lots of you know I was an associate at Via.

Here's what I remember about the Little Dorm and Frank:

- A young boy -whose name I still remember- in one of my classes told me that the boys had to take cold showers, but the girls were allowed hot showers.

- I was not allowed to give innocent, little girl lip gloss to the girls in my classes who were in the Little Dorm, because Frank did not like them wearing "Makeup." This was for a Christmas present and I remember thinking, 'Shouldn't the parents be the ones to decide this? After all, they are going home for Christmas break and take the lip gloss with them if need be.'

- I remember the specific name of one little girl who told me they were not allowed to play with me or any of the other associate teachers outside of school, because Uncle Frank liked them to spend time with him.

If I think of more I will post them.

I don't want to judge, but honestly it is so hard for me to believe that spouses of pedophiles are completely innocent in all of it. Weren't there signs? Wasn't there any indication that their spouses fascination with children was not healthy? Shouldn't the spouse be held somewhat responsible in all this?

I agree Survivor! I can remember being admonished again and again to avoid the appearance of sin. So with the "dorm dad" hanging out alone with young girls in bedrooms and other places....this wasn't appearing sinful enough?

Again- except for very rare cases where the spouse truly did NOT know, there is no excuse, as hard as that is for *me* to write. There are lots of reasons, but no usually justifiable excuses.

Fear of man is the biggie for me, and I suspect, for many others faced with this. Fear of not being loved. Fear of having the wrath of the abuser on you. Fear, even, of making it WORSE for your children if you handle it wrong. Fear that if you leave and have to come back, things will be that much more horrible (because they often are). Lots of fear.

But excuses for staying and never doing anything-- there aren't any.