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I can honestly say that I felt extreme rage this morning when I read this letter. Obviously having been naive at 18 years of age while talking to Scott Ross on the phone, I believed that he understood that I had been abused. My counselor sent a full report confirming the abuse. Interesting, that he only states that there were inappropriate actions. Once again there is proof that their only concern was to make sure that the leadership was seen in a positive light, "having dealt graciously and gently"..... While talking to my counselor this week, it took her about 10 minutes to say "he should have been put in prison". Notice she didn't say let me confer with several people and we will have 130 meetings wherein nothing will be decided. She has been working on another child abuse case and said that the man was just sentenced to 35 years in prison. I believe that is what so many on this forum need is validation. What Scott failed to mention was that those inappropriate actions were abuse. This letter just reminds me of what a sick world we live. Being pregnant, I have done so much reflecting on being the kind of parent that God wants me to be. I definitely do not have all the answers, but I want to raise kids who stand up for what is right and just!! We constantly remind our son to protect his little sister and watch out for her. Do we raise our kids in a bubble completely sheltered from the world??? No!!! They are with us when we work in the projects every week. We want them to grow up loving people, but also have common sense when it comes to really "bad people" in this world. WE want them to talk to us about everything no matter what it is. So if nothing comes from all of this, I hope to at least gain a better perspective on parenting. Last week, a girl in my neighborhood came running over, scared silly, because her mom's boyfriend was giving her the creeps. Even though she is 16, she knows that he is about to cross the line of abuse. I listened to her and then wasted no time confronting her mom. I explained to her that other adults had stood by in silence while my abuser carried on with his "inappropriate acts". I assured her that I would not be one of those adults in this girl's life. This mom has one option--- Break it off with the boyfriend and never allow him to go near her again. She assured me that this man had not touched her, but she recently started getting the creeps around him. The mom also confessed that she too was getting worried. I pray that all of us will be watchful and mindful of those around us. May we never be afraid to speak up for fear of hurting someone's feelings or jeopardizing a relationship. Excuse me for rambling, I'M JUST REALLY FIRED UP!!!!!!!
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