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Lessons from a Horse
The movie Seabiscuit isn't just about a racehorse. It's about being broken and finding healing. It's about the underdog. It's about being down-and-out and someone giving you a chance. It's about loss. It's about optimism when facing an impossible situation. It's about "choosing life". Maybe it's because May has swiftly come and is nearly gone, bringing with it the second anniversary of Olivia's death, that I'm feeling particularly...thoughtful.

When Seabiscuit's owners first find him, they, along with the horse trainer, take him for a run around the track to see how Seabiscuit performs.

"He seems fast."
"In every direction."
"He's so beat up it's hard to tell what he's like."
And sometimes people can be the same way. The are so broken, bruised, and beaten down that it's hard to tell. Hard to tell who they really are underneath the layers of pain. Hard to tell what strength and beauty lies beneath. Hard to tell how wonderful they might be to get to know or to embrace in a relationship because all we see is the hardened, prickly exterior.

"He just needs to learn how to be a horse again."
I think sometimes as people, we need to relearn how to live again, especially after suffering or trials. We need to rediscover joy, remember our blessings, risk love again. Time has been a healer for me, but sometimes we don't allow ourselves the room to mend. We jump right back into life's chaos without stopping long enough to reflect, to bring our wounds to God and soak in His healing salve.

"You know, you don't throw a whole life away just 'cause he's banged up a little."
I am fond of quoting this movie line, time and again, because I don't believe that any person or any circumstance is beyond redemption, even if all seems lost and beyond repair. If there's life, there's hope. It might seem naive to some and foolish to others, but even after all that I have gone through, I still believe in miracles. I believe that He can change anyone and anything. I am willing to look beyond the exterior and see to what could be.

"You know, everybody thinks we found this broken-down horse and fixed him, but we didn't. He fixed us. Every one of us. And I guess in a way we kinda fixed each other too." -Becki

Beautiful.

Thanks, Survivor.
I believe He can do ANYTHING.
In some other words---He does the impossible.
It's amazing when you see it or experience it for yourself.

A wonderful testimony of what only God can do and do it so well. We know, don't we, Survivor. Your life and your sister's are wonderful reminders. God is too loving and wise to waste our pain. He always has redemption in mnd, I believe. And that is my heart cry, for the lonely and the broken and the battered, the abused and those who love them. Oh, that God will be allowed into each broken heart to bring redemptive healing. Thanks to your friend for this testimony.

On a whim, I reread this whole link. First I have to say, I love the name. Name that Pedophile. I think that the use of it as a continual subject line was why I was able to say recently, "my grandfather was a pedophile," for the first time. I had described him as, "liked little children a little too much," or "sexually abused . . .". Thanks to survivor and the rest of the supporters around this for being so forthright. Second, I love how this link tells one big story of Steve, and other stories around that one. Over 9 months a lot happened that isn't written here, but enough to say, "wow, what a story.". Third, it was fun to read comments from some who were here and now gone.". Should we close this one up, or is there more to say about the subject? Is there someone else that you're afraid to name? Someone who to this day scares you?

Allbetter, I'm glad you have been able to name a pedophile for who he was, and that that was healing for you.
I know there are other NTM pedophiles who have not yet been named here.
Whether or not they will ever be listed here, or whether or not they will even be exposed remains to be seen.
Sadly, this is still a very open subject line.

Sometimes we're not ready to say that yet. It's OK if that's where you are, just talk to someone about it instead of second-guessing yourself. You might feel, "well, he only touched me that one time, or maybe it was my fault? Whatever the situation, if it is still bothering you, please talk about it to an objective person that cares about you. You don't have to carry the secret any longer.

@allbetter
One reason I chose that subject line of "Name that Pedophile" is because my uncle and his wife have never been able to call him that. They have never been able to admit the truth. They called it "a moment of weakness." As with any addiction, as long as there is denial, there can't be healing. And as long as those around the addicted are also in denial, then there won't be healing. It needs to be seen for what it is, not glossed over as "a seconds long mistake."
I'm so glad that you've been able to speak the truth in your own life. It helps bring the pieces together. Truth is healing.

Even though It doesn't look like a lot of names on this list, many names have been listed and given to Pat. If she is given a name,,,they WILL be investigated, no matter who it is.

Dbarney, you seem to know what my worries are! Good news. Ok, well maybe you can help with something else then . . .it's going to be pretty brutal for some of us to talk to the investigators--how can we help them get thru this? And then the fall-out? Pride? Relief? Regret? What should we anticipate?