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Raz, thank you for posting! I don't know exactly how it works, either, as far as threads becoming inactive, but this is a very important one that needs to be kept alive. Louise Lambert is mentioned above, and there were other postings on her as being a cruel physical abuser. It was also mentioned that she didn't want to be in Tambo. NTM should have been more discerning about where they put people, in fact, it would seem to me the missionaries should have been able to have a choice about where they ministered, not just placed somewhere at the whim of some leader. As we saw in Fanda, some of those abusers didn't want to be dorm parents, but were forced to or be in "rebellion" against "leadership," and look at the tragic results!!

I have not written here for quite awhile or even visited anymore. But wanted to say that we are seeing some progress, we think, in our situation. It will probably still be a long and tangled road, but at least we feel that parties before hardened to truth and change have opened up some. We are cautiously hopeful because finally more family members are open to seeing that there was always more than one side of the abuse issue, but some refused to acknowledge it and instead willing just accepted the false story. God doesn't forget us though and he is our Advocate. So, we praise Him, for the progress we have seen and yet trust Him for progress in the coming year. Thank you to all who have supported and affirmed our family on this forum. Let's all continue to hope and pray for more hurting hearts to find healing and resolution from past abuse. And my God help us all to be aware of how to prevent this type of abuse from happening again.

I'm not sure if this is the thread I was on when I said I would try to look at the personnel files. I was told the files are confidential/private and that you have to get permission from the people themselves before you can look at them. I guess I can understand that, I certainly wouldn't want just anybody looking at my private information. Generally I don't have anything to hide but it's a matter of privacy I guess. I was told that it is a legal issue.

I hope NTM Child won't mind if I copy their post on this thread where we are trying to keep track of specific names:

"I will add the names of two abusers from Tambo from the 60's and 70's.

Mr. Pittinger physically abused many little boys with beatings, spiritual abuse of others.

Mr. Krietz sexually abused several boys in the little boys dorm when he took it over from Mr. Pittinger.

There are others, more recent ones but I don't know them."

Posted by NTM Child on 1/7/11

Since I was the one who started this thread about my story, I guess I'll post this on here. Wasn't sure the best place to share this. The other day I had the most heart-breaking talk with my boys. I have three boys ages 4, 6, and 8. Over the years I have talked to them about "good touch, bad touch" but had never shared my story of abuse. My oldest is just one year younger than when my abuse started. The statistic is that 1 in 3 girls will be sexually abused so it's very likely that one day I'll have a daughter-in-law that was sexually abused. And very soon, if not already, my boys will have classmates who are victims of sexual abuse. I want them to know that our house is a safe place to talk about this. It's a hard subject but I want them to know that they can come to us when anything happens or if they hear their friends talking about it. Although I don't want to give them too much information, perhaps it's worse not giving them the information they may need.
So once again I talked to them about "good touch, bad touch" and then I told them how when I was in 4rth grade an adult man had touched me in a way that made me uncomfortable. But I didn't know it was wrong and I didn't know that I could talk to my parents about it. So I didn't say anything for many years. My middle son was completely grossed out, as is appropriate. It really is gross. My oldest son asked me who it was that had touched me. Wow, that really hurt! I told him maybe someday I would tell him but I didn't think he was old enough to know yet. Someday I will have to tell them that it was my uncle who did this to me. This breaks my heart. But I will tell them because to really understand the whole story and the pain, the fact that it was a family member is really half of the story. I'm sure once they know the truth, they will have their own thoughts and feelings to sort through knowing that something like this happened within their own family. Sure I may protect them from hurt and confusion by not telling them, but I am not about secrecy and making people feel comfortable. Life is hard. People make bad choices. There is pain but there can also be healing.
I want my boys to know that no topic is off limits in our family; that we will stand for truth and that sin will not be covered up. And as much as I would like them to remain innocent as long as possible, they need to know that there are bad people out there and we need to be wise and look out for each other.

Wow, Survivor. That must have been hard to do.
You have so much courage.
Your boys will appreciate the kind of home they grew up in. Truthful and sensitive.

You're a wise mom, Survivor, and doing well at being proactive. I love you!

Survivor, I am in awe of your courage and wisdom!

Dr. Drew said something that has stuck with me: "We are only as sick as our secrets."

No more secrets! Shine the light of truth!!

Good for you! What a great Mom you are! (I know you had/have a good example of a great mom!)

For anyone who has read or followed my story, I wanted to post this letter from cousin, Cynthia. She wrote a letter many months ago which I posted on this same thread. After much communication after that letter between her and the victims and families, she has now posted another letter. I'm very thankful that she realizes she never should have posted that letter and that the information her dad told her was not true. I would still love to get an "apology letter" from Steve in regards to the letter he wrote accompanying Cynthia's first letter, but I don't know if that will ever happen. Here's her Apology Letter.

It is after much prayer and correspondence with my cousins that I would like to apologize for the inaccurate information that was written in the letter that I wrote and posted concerning Steve Armour. The information that was passed on to me concerning the accounts of sexual abuse done by my father was downplayed and inaccurate. The victims have related to me that the abuse was more extensive and on more occasions than what was stated. I should have contacted all parties involved and thoroughly double-checked each detail with the victims before attempting to post any of that information.


I would like to apologize to all those who have been hurt because of that original letter. Please forgive me; that was never my intention and was not deliberate.


In Christ,

Cynthia Isaak

I believe that Cynthia is truly desiring to know and act out of truth and I honor her for doing this. It is a step in the direction of affirmation and truth that the victims and their families needed to have in their own journey of healing. God will honor truth and I believe He also honors this step that Cynthia has made. We praise HIM!