Dear NTM

I realize that asking for repentance is not a quantifiable thing and it may be hard for you to know “what we want”. Repentance is so much more than fulfilling someone’s demands so you can ‘get to the other side of this’. While I think true repentance would illuminate your path and make clear the steps of restitution, I understand that we cannot count on repentance. I believe real repentance would look something like the below, when acted upon out of a broken and contrite heart.

1. A phone call to every one involved in NTM Senegal (missionaries, parents, MKs, abusers) offering reimbursement of counseling expenses. Provide quality and intensive counseling for a lifetime or however long it is desired at a licensed therapist of the MKs choice.

2. Every person in leadership at that time to be investigated (out of house) as to their involvement and if it was determined they showed any knowledge and lack of response to be immediately dismissed from NTM.

3. A letter of apology written to the Senegalese national church.

4. Public pages taken out in newspapers expressing your deep sorrow and desire to stand behind us now and become our greatest advocate.

5. Each abuser named who is still with NTM to be thoroughly investigated in the presence of NTM, any interested MKs and parents, and an outside mediator/lawyer. Dismissed immediately if found to be guilty, and prosecuted to the full extent of the law.

6. Get a qualified therapist on staff, immediately.

These are things we would like to see happen. I believe a contrite heart would reveal more steps you can make toward restitution and the repairing of the relationship between you, the mission, and us, those who possibly know you best as we grew up under your leadership. Ours hearts really long for a restoration of that relationship. You were our family, and our church.

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7 Responses to Dear NTM

  1. Anon says:

    From the NTM USA Executive Board a week ago:

    “We are wanting to express our deep sorrow and apologize for what happened to you and several others during those dark days at the boarding school. … I have to admit that I’m still not sure of all that you want to see happen and I’m not sure that we will ever be able to meet your expectations. I hate what happened to you, but am not sure how to go back 15-20 years ago and take care of all this when most of these perpetrators are not with the mission anymore. I know that the CPC is continuing to do investigation on this whole matter.”

    It sure sounds like NTM is taking this matter seriously. They are still doing an investigation into this matter….

    NTM IS behind you. They aren’t trying to cover up anything.

    Why don’t you see this?

    -A bystander.

  2. Fanda MK says:

    Val – I’m afraid I may have been misunderstood. Please note that I wrote about the abusers’ therapy, not the victims’. I certainly think victims have the right to counseling, paid for by the abusers.

    ntmabuse – I’m going to withhold my name for this post for personal reasons, but I promise to post under my name if I have any further constructive suggestions. Also, I did not know about the insurance you mentioned. In that case, I would expect NTM to do their part.

  3. Val says:

    To FandaMK-
    I would really like to understand more of why you dont think the mission should pay for private therapy? It seems that it would be a great benefit to the victims as well as their parents, provided that they are will to face the truth of what happened. Therapy can help greatly with healing. Please explain more.

  4. ntmabuse says:

    The NTM abuse manual says they will provide funds for counseling to abused MKs. Not counseling, because I don’t think any one of us would go to NTM for counseling, but reimbursement for counseling with a therapist of our choice. I don’t see an issue here. In my opinion this is the most important thing they could do. They have insurance.

    Friendly suggestions are awesome, I love them. But I do ask if you want to claim what WE must make clear then you should identify yourself and participate in the discussion.

    No one affiliated with this blog has expressed the desire for personal gain from this. Yes, we should include something about prevention of future abuse. Please identify yourself and make some suggestions.

  5. Fanda MK says:

    If I may offer a friendly suggestion, I think perhaps we are asking for more than what is reasonable (certainly more than what is likely). Many, if not most, of those responsible are no longer with the mission board, so those we ask for restitution are not those who caused the problems. I support items 2, 3, & 5 wholeheartedly. I don’t think NTM needs to reimburse the abusers for their counseling. And when the victims request monetary damages, it can tend to cheapen the validity of their claim. We must make it clear that our goal is about protecting the innocent, not personal gain. Also, shouldn’t this list include something about a plan to prevent future abuse?

  6. victoriafrayne says:

    In total support.

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