The Panama Summary Report mentions the widespread acceptance of "elite boarding schools" in decades past as being a factor in the establishing of NTM's system of boarding schools for the children of their missionaries.
For anyone still doubting how deep the effects of being abandoned by one's parents in these schools are, this article is an important read.
https://www.theguardian.com/books/2015/ ... ien-reviewExcerpts:
"The many hundreds of emails I’ve received make it pretty clear that the schools of the elite suffered the same cover-ups and the same astonishing failings in regulation and in policing as did the hospitals, care homes and young offenders’ prisons. The difference? As several correspondents put it, in anger or amusement, “Posh people’s parents paid to have them abused.” That, of course, is what most hurt Hymie Schaverien, and thousands of others. “Boarders cannot console themselves with the thought that their parents did not want them to go,” Professor Schaverien states. Their parents chose to send them from home into hell or prison – words her patients frequently use – and so to break the bond with their child."
"From the moment the parent drove away, a child had to adjust to the fact that not only was privacy and safety no longer guaranteed – let alone the consolation of a hug – but that their parents had chosen this future."
"...the side-effects of this abrupt intervention in a six- or eight-year-old’s development could be savage. Symptoms that a therapist in boarding school syndrome addresses are problems with anger, depression, anxiety, failure to sustain relationships, fear of abandonment, substance abuse and so forth. A common effect is amnesia: many of Schaverien’s patients – and my correspondents – have sad gaps where, in a normal childhood and adolescence, there would be a wealth of memory. Forgetting the pain is yet another coping mechanism."
"It’s obvious enough that these institutions, full of emotionally needy and incompetently supervised children, have provided havens and hunting grounds for sexual criminals since their beginning. Hence the extraordinary wave of allegations about historic child abuse in institutions."
"...emotional cruelty is what exacts the greatest toll on the developing mind. Children are resilient, they can recover from physical hurt: it’s clear from reading Schaverien that what most reliably damages children is long-term emotional neglect, the absence of safety, the failure of justice, the loss of love."
Achingly, heartbreakingly familiar to so many of my fellow MKs.
How many adult MKs and their loved ones are living with the tragic residual effects of this horrible education system??
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