I think that from the perspective of some former Tribers (such as my parents), posting on here is far more drama than their comfort zones could ever tolerate. It is getting too close to the intimacy of raw emotions (blinding rage, spewing bitterness, suffocating despair, etc.), and it is too close to the organization that hurt them so deeply.
Even though they shudder & recoil at the mention of NTM, they themselves are still fearful of being shamed, publicly chastised, attacked & ridiculed. Ironically, they are reflecting the NTM of 20+ years ago by believing this forum to be a witch-hunt and NTM-bashing fest, hosted by an army of vengeful, embittered MK's. They can't see it for what it is, a group of broken adults who are looking for justice & healing, & who are trying to pick up the pieces - or hold those pieces together as tightly as they are able.
They truly are sad for the children who suffered, but they will remain sad from a safe distance. No drama. Keep the facade calm and cooperative. They cannot stomach the public revelations of emotion and painful events, too sloppy and human, not controlled & spiritual enough. "Forgive." "Extend mercy." "Take the high road." "Move on."
Almost every post on here that was written by a mom (or dad) of an MK has made me cry. They have crawled into the middle of this mess of broken humanity and held their children's hands - and they've shown loyalty & godliness that this fleeting & fragile life can't break. They exhibit humility and courage by acknowledging their own mistakes, & standing WITH their "babies" in the middle of their emotional storms.
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