This question was asked awhile ago, but I'll comment anyway. Kari, I don't know how old you are but it appears that you are young. If you are in your 20's you are the same age as my kids. Yes, my 'kids'. My husband and I were discussing what to call them now that they are adults. Progeny? Offspring? Certainly not children. We've stuck with 'kids.'
I laughed at myself the other day when I realized that I had referred to someone that I had talked with as a "girl" and she is 50.
I, as you may guess, am older, but still consider myself an Missionary Kid. You've probably heard the term TCK. There is ATCK (Adult Third Culture Kid) that makes the distinction.
Also, as sharyhauber says, you can get stuck in the age of the abuse. I think 'being' that age is normal. I don't know if you have to "heal" to grow up in that area, or what "healing" means in that case. Even then I don't think you are that age in all areas of your life and even when dealing with 'it' you aren't wholly that age.
Another thing I've noticed as I've grown older is how strange it is to be my age. I don't feel like this age! As I talk with my high school friends on facebook I still think of us as highschoolers. Yet most of us are older than our parents were when we were IN high school! I thought that by this age I would be long ago 'all grown up.' Hmm..., I have the sneaking suspicion that 'all grown up' never happens.
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