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For those of you who are still hanging onto hope that NTM will actually have the courage to do the right thing, the right way, and keep it that way, in doling out -- and sticking with -- significant consequences to the missionaries who abused you, accused you, or failed to protect you, may I just name a few names, for your consideration:

Ron Abram

Donna Beach

Susan Major

Mel Wyma

From someone in Senegal:

Ron has been there since January, but was leaving now. He told people in the village that he would be be back in December. When he left previously, he did not remove all of his belongings from the house in the village. And his car is still there, possibly at the NTM guesthouse. He said he's not with NTM, but he is using their materials in his teachings in the village. It appears that NTM is cooperating with or assisting him, but they are trying to keep that hidden.

At the risk of sounding irreverent, it reminds me of the story of two well dressed men walking down the street and they see something a dog has left behind. They get on their knees and examine it closely and one says to the other. "It looks like dog poo, it feels like dog poo, it smells like dog poo and I do believe it tastes like dog poo, thank goodness we didn't step in it!"

Trouble is we is all sitting down wind of it and the smell ain't pleasant.

You are right Bemused. The smell that NTM has left is beyond NOT pleasant. The affect NTM has had on me is pale next to the MK's that have suffered so much, but it still stinks and has affected me in so many negative ways. I have shared what I have gone through with only a few key people that I knew I could trust, and even that trust took me a very long time. If I knew my story would help put NTM in their place, or rather take them out of their place instead of just stirring up my regrets and negative emotions, I would do so again in a heartbeat. Thank you for sharing as you have.

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Written by Iwillflyagain!

I've worked in the medical field for 3 decades and have learnt that gaining as much information from a patient is crucial in figuring what is wrong with them.
Imagine if I just treated every patient that I saw who complained of chest pain as a cardiac case. Just assumed because it was the chest and the heart is a vital organ it has to be a cardiac condition. I'd be missing a lot of other possible diagnosis, for example gall stones, oesphageal spasm, pericarditis and so on. The point being, to get clear picture I need to know as much as I can about the patient and their problem. But not just what they say, but what I can visually see and also what their accompanying person says (especially with male patients who tend to miss vital bits of info and arrive at the wrong self diagnosis).

And so it is the same here. Every one of us has a vital story to tell, whether it be as an MK or as someone who was/is a part of NTM. Yes some experiences are more traumatic and raw than others, but each little part of the jigsaw helps build up a diagnosis. We all know what the problem was, it was abuse on a grand scale, but in gaining a fuller understanding of how this happened, it is more likely that we can make sure it never happens again and those that have suffered the ill effects have at least a shot at gaining some healing.

Whatever your experience, good or bad, if you feel you'd like to share it, by all means feel free to do so. I promise I won't make you cough anything into a little specimen jar, I'm off duty today . Now take a deep breath, hold and . . .

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Written by Iwillflyagain!

Bemused, I thank you for your encouragement to share my story too. It may take me a while before I can do that. It takes a lot out of me emotionally even though it was years ago. I hope that I will know when the time is right for me to share so that my story too can be a part of bringing healing and justice to this sad picture.

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Written by Iwillflyagain!

I suspect we will never fully fathom why this all went so dreadfully wrong for so many. It is not easy to admit that , something that was so much a part of ones life either by choice or inheritance had features that to anyone looking objectively from the outside in, would classify it as a "cult mentality".

Sometimes to fully understand something so bad as this has alas become is to explore the minds of individuals who are so far removed from reality that it is impossible for mere mortals to comprehend what they are thinking and how they justify their actions or lack of them.
Perhaps the best solution is to leave them to their own warped world or in the hands of a God they served in word only. Meanwhile in an effort to maintain ones own sanity, reach out for those who genuinely care, whoever and wherever they may be. Most of us are not designed to carry such burdens alone and hope to have a shot at healing, so the shedding of baggage in the company of like minded friends is a good option to take up.