I am going to suggest to my friend that she start to contact other victims of Aritao. She is well on her way in the healing process, and even though at times it is extremely difficult... (August 14th, 2010...I held her...In my arms...While she cried hysterically about this...Trembling... Shaking head to toe...In a full blown panic attack... The first time she had cried about it...Ever... It had all been locked up inside her. Literally, pushed back to the depths of her being and walls with big, thick titanium padlocks around them. The first time she had ever cried about this... All of these were suppressed memories for her, and they started coming out just about a year ago.) My friend is healing. Slowly but surely. I believe that she can help others heal, and talking with them will also be very therapeutic to her as well. Not as an attempt to get others to join in on this forum, but... If they are like her, they need to heal as well. They need to tell their story to someone.
I am not surprised about GRACE not being asked to do further investigations. I tried piecing together how they made that decision...My visualization went something like this:
NTM calls a few lawyers. Asks how they can protect themselves. Lawyers do some research and tell NTM "DO NOT have ANY OF THIS ABUSE DOCUMENTED!!! If someone decides to go after NTM in Civil Court, most of the work will already be done (via the GRACE reports, paid for my NTM)!!! (Lawyers look at NTM Leadership and say something like "So let me get this right, you're going to pay someone to come in and gather evidence against your organization... DUH!!!") Attorney advises NTM to immediately "misplace" any documentation that they have about other abuse cases. NTM takes their advice and starts destroying any documentation about anything else they know about other than Fanda. NTM Makes an announcement saying " We have hired an inside investigator to handle this" and hired lawyers instead. Yes, it is a corporation. Piss on the MK's once again.
My friend was in a daze last night. She was really hurt. This organization that she loved so much has hurt her, ignored her, treated her like excess baggage, all the while telling her " we love you... God Bless You and your family." and Continue to hurt her.
She had so much hope and faith in NTM, that they were finally going to do the right thing. She believed in them with her whole heart. She finally started to come out of her shell knowing there would be an investigation, and has been gearing up for it. She is crushed. Beyond crushed. I think that NTM has lost her respect permanently. If not, then I will intervene at every possible opportunity to ensure she does not get hurt again...
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